VIBRATIONAL
REMEDIES RESOURCE LIST
Prepared by
Ouapiti Robintree
Essences
for parent-child relationships Suicide
issues
ESSENCES FOR
PARENT-CHILD RELATIONSHIPS
Parent-child relationships are a difficult
issue for many; early dysfunctional patterns may continue into adulthood
and create long-term familial strife. Many adult children and their parents
still have difficulty loving and appreciating each other's unique qualities
and viewpoints. This article is designed to be useful for increasing love,
appreciation, and clean communication between parents and offspring at
any stage of life. It includes a thematic list of relevant Hummingbird
Remedies for a number of issues, in hopes that it may help many families.
In looking at this issue, consider the age
and emotional/spiritual development of the parties; minor children will
have less psychological or spiritual tools for dealing with dysfunctionality
than adult children, and older parents may be more set in their ways and
less able (at least initially) to adapt to changing relationships.
VIBRATIONAL REMEDIES AND PARENT-CHILD RELATIONSHIPS
There are a number of reasons for difficult
parent-child relationships, ranging from simple disagreements to inappropriate
boundaries, to outright abuse. Some of these are addressed here, in overview:
In infancy, the child is completely helpless
and at the mercy of his caregiver (usually mother). If there is any limitation
on the part of the parent's ability to be unconditionally present for
the baby, there may be a "kink" or interference in the free flow of love
and mutual acceptance. Remedies for mutual bonding, and development
of loving responsibility on the parent's part, will be useful
here. If the problem has been present for a number of years, there may
be soul-scarring of the child's ego; remedies for his self-esteem and
ability to find goodness will be useful.
Even in the face of conditional love ("I'll
love and reward you more if you're a good girl,") a child will usually
continue to love her parent; but by adolescence she may have become quite
disillusioned with the ability to find veracity and authenticity in the
relationship, and begin to act out her frustration as she learns to develop
her personal power. This is when so many parent-child conflicts come to
a head, as defined by the term "adolescent rebellion." Many parents, when
faced with this stage, lament, "She used to be such a (good/sweet/obedient/etc.)
little girl; now she's a monster! What happened?" Quite likely, what happened
is the child is fed up with the limitations and irritations of the relationship,
and as she learns to assert herself and her desire for positive change,
she is often not using the optimal times, places, conditions and choice
of words to support this desire to shift in a healthy way. Remedies for
communication and mutual understanding will be useful
here.
In the healthy evolution of a parent-child
relationship, as the child develops maturity and responsibility
skills, the parent can then begin to release control and the need to control.
There will inevitably be rough moments in the changing form, but the underlying
love and connection will remain. Remedies to assist these processes will
be helpful.
If, however, due to karmic stories
or poor past relationships and low self-esteem/ family-of-origin issues,
either or both of the players get stuck in negative loops, there are remedies
to assist moving through pain and suffering. These will be useful to varying
extents depending on the severity of damage to the relationship. Each
side of the story must be addressed, with remedies for both players ideal.
If only one of the dyadic paradigm [parent or child] is willing and present
for the work, of course it makes the process more difficult, but healing
can be done.
There are three levels
to approaching the parent-child paradigm: from point of view of the parent;
the child; and the group soul or Overmind
that integrates the vast orchestra of universal healing. Information on
addressing these levels are given here.
The parent needs to remember
that you entered into a karmic contractual agreement with the soul who
is incarnating as your child. Even if the details are not now remembered
by your personality-self, be assured that your soul knows and remembers
its right relationship to this being. Your mystery-journey of exploration
is to learn to be the best you can to each other, without
imposing limitations of any kind. Even a qualified success is worth celebrating,
and aspiring to, as the rewards are so great on every level.
The child-soul shares
this same soul-view, and is indeed aware on her deepest levels what is
needed to honor the relationship. If she is walking a conscious path of
doing her best, and folowing her heart, right relationship can be easily
discerned with a combination of compassion and dispassion.
When there is a karmic relationship
that is needed to be played out together over time, individual lifetimes
may look very unbalanced and hurtful, as you seek new forms to define
and express your love for each other. Rest assured: with right intention,
right support and right relationship with discernment from soul levels
as to one's greater story, these challenges can all be faced in love and
clarity.
In general formulas for healing parent-child
relationships, consider adding HIERBA
DE LA PASTORA when "experiencing limitation on the depth
of a relationship." It is very much a forgiving-releasing-healing remedy.
If working with children and adolescents, consider using ALOE
SAPONARIA).
If anxiety in the relationship is contributing
to asthmatic conditions, consider BUSHEL
GOURD.
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